Ask anyone what they want in life, and most of the time they will describe the conditions: a quiet neighborhood, a good work environment, a bigger TV, and all the other stuff that helps us live our life. What about being happy? Is that okay with you, simply being happy?
What does it take? The right conditions? I’ve been in some wonderful places, and I’ve been in some mediocre ones, too. Did it matter? Not at all. I can think back to a time I visited one of my favorite quiet beaches. The whole point of the long drive, the hotel, and the sequencing of the day was centered around being at that beach. Did I feel content and fulfilled once I was there? No, I felt distracted, though I didn’t know why.
It’s not about the conditions. Being happy is more than a state of mind. It’s more like a state of being. What exactly is it? It’s a very personal thing, but we all know what it means. “Are you happy?” is a question we ask of ourselves and others. Whether or not we answer that question honestly is another matter.
Self Love Tips for Being Happy
What causes us to drift from that place of being happy? Some times it’s conflict. Not conflict in the world around us, like the kids arguing, or tension at work around meeting a deadline. Inner conflict can lead us from our place of being happy. Imagine following your dream, your life’s passion, even at the expense of giving up some of your family time. Do you follow your dream, or do you do what you think is right? The problem is that they are both right! Which do you choose?
The Value of Being Happy
Being happy is a valuable place to be. When we are happy we are more engaged with our life. We’re also hold more presence. Why is this important? We have less ability and control over our own life when we are distant and distracted. It’s harder to solve the simplest problem, and things are more likely to go wrong just because our attention is elsewhere. Being happy should be considered an essential in anyone’s life.
Being Happy No Matter What
Oh, that’s a lot to ask for, being happy no matter what. What makes us , or let’s us feel happy? Feeling that we can make a difference. Knowing that we have choices, and that where we are right now is by choice, not chance. Even looking at that place we are right now, even the less happy places, and finding that nougat of value in the experience. By the way, when you’re in that less than happy place, finding the value is by far the fastest way to shift past that stopping point.
Being happy, it’s something we value, right? There’s the secret, our self love tip for today. Life is precious, treat it that way. Find value in the foods you eat, and the tiniest of interactions throughout the day. Stand between those points of conflict and look at both sides with honor. Be grateful for those simple things: the glass of water within your reach, the stranger who held the door so you could make it into the elevator.
As for being happy, it is a state of “being”, free from conflict, but not a void in any way. Perhaps it’s just being “okay”, and when you ask, “am I happy”, the answer might be, “well, I’m not unhappy at this moment”. Being happy, is that okay with you?
“We all live with the objective of being happy, our lives are all different and yet the same” – Anne Frank
Being Happy Is That Okay With You? © 2013 Estee Taschereau. About the author: My greatest love is assisting others shift into the comfort of acceptance and appreciation. This relational, open-hearted energy carries into my many interests: photography, symbiotic gardening, long walks, and enjoying nature. Ready for a shift in your own world? Sessions available by appt.
artwork by Kyrill Poole from London, UK