Wow! Four Secrets to break the spell of that “Nagging Little Voice”
One morning as I turned my focus toward finding a topic to blog today I stopped long enough to notice. Notice what? Oh, just that nagging little voice that always knocks me down two or three notches. It’s quick, lightning fast, moving in before I can form an idea. It’s sneaky, hiding itself in my memories and past experiences. Let’s not forget its superpowers: it can knock me off my feet in a split-second. It’s stealthing abilities are uncanny, I don’t even notice that I’ve been hit! ‘Nagging little voices’ listen up, it’s time for a change!
Dealing with our Nagging Little Voice
So here I am, just me, facing this superpower stealth lightning fast sneaky unseen force that comes in and takes the wind of of my sails. How am I supposed to stand up to this thing? And that’s the whole point, it feels bigger than we do. It seems more powerful than we are. It has years of experience telling us what we cannot do, cannot be, cannot have. We have years of experience listening to it. Okay, I think the hole we dug is deep enough now. Let’s step out of it.
What can you do to get out of the nagging little voice syndrome? Stop feeding it. There’s a great little story called Two Wolves:
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.
One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed”.
The Wolf Within
I’ll get right to the point – the idea is to find what feeds your NLV (nagging little voice) and stop feeding it. What feeds it? Doubt, hesitation, apathy, depression, worry, anxiousness, they are all nectar to the NLV.
The Secrets on How to Break the Spell
Now, here’s a little secret. A great big concept and power tool locked in a little secret. Big things come in little packages. Ready? How often does it work when someone says, “just stop it”. Next to never, right? Why? Because nature does not permit a void. You have to give yourself something better. Much better. This is where your diligence will pay off. You get to practice a new way of thinking. Secret #1: Give yourself the power of “wow”.
Wow, sometimes you just have to say “Wow”. What does that word have in it? Excitement. Enthusiasm. Wow! Try this out: find something you can talk about that’s been chewed to pieces by the nagging little voice. Pick something not related to you for this practice demo. Talk about it in the NLV tone. “That won’t work, its too hard, no one will like it..”. Now add the WOW. (”Wow, listen to that! Did you see that NLV? Geez that was fast!!). This was secret #2: Detach yourself. That nagging little voice is not your mother, your best friend, or your boss, so why are you listening?
Now for secret #3: Every time you add a WOW you change the tone. Nagging little voices do not like wow. When you bring in the Wow, and you detach from the NLV, you change the tone. Have you ever listened to a child use the Wow? They do it, and some of them do it very well!
Ready for the fourth Secret? Secret #4: Wow gives you the ability to laugh. Think back to a time when you’ve been with friends, and you’re all laughing so hard you can’t contain yourselves. No matter what anyone says the response is uproarious laughter! Now you have it! Hold onto that feeling. The nagging little voice only holds power when we give it power.
Stop Feeding the Wolf
In keeping with secret #4, play with it! Make a game of it. You are not going to make it less important or insult yourself by playing. You will be changing the tone, one step in taking charge. That doesn’t mean making fun of yourself. Imagine YOU the observer standing next to YOU, the part of you involved in the moment. Talk between the two of you, watch the ‘nagging little voice’, use the WOW word, and play with it!!
© 2011 Estee Taschereau. About the author: My greatest love is assisting others shift into the comfort of acceptance and appreciation. This relational, open-hearted energy carries into my many interests: photography, symbiotic gardening, long walks, and enjoying nature. Ready for a shift in your own world? Sessions available by appt.
Reprint from May 26, 2008.