Self Esteem: How It Affects Your Life

Psychologists use the term self esteem to gauge a person’s overall evaluation and appraisal of her own worth. It includes both beliefs and emotions. Beliefs might include such phrases as ‘am incompetent’ or ‘am worthy’. Emotions might contain feelings of triumph, despair, pride or shame.

They regard it as one of the basic needs of humans since each person values himself in a specific way. It thus contributes greatly to the process of your life from when you are born until you die. It is therefore one of the very essential things for your healthy, normal personal development. The trait normally has about three levels.

Our Basic Need For Self Esteem

The first is high self-esteem whereby a person feels worthy and able. He feels confident enough to cope with life and also feels right as an individual. He believes firmly in certain principles and values, he trusts his own judgment and considers his dignity equal to others rather than feeling inferior or superior.

The next is low level which really is the direct opposite of the high level. When you have this level, you do not feel really prepared to face life and you might also feel wrong as a person. You may criticize yourself heavily, you could be sensitive to any criticism and you might be too ready to please others. You might also possess defensive tendencies, be openly irritable and find it difficult to forgive others.

There is also the middle ground level which falls in between high and low. This means the person can feel useless and able or wrong and right simultaneously. Such people show these incongruities in their behavior by acting rashly at times and wisely at other times.

How We Develop Self Esteem

This character trait usually starts developing immediately a child is born. The family, the school and society in general can determine to a great extent how a child will value himself in life. A child’s self-worth may be affected if he is criticized, discouraged or abused. A child who is praised, encouraged and loved may develop a high self-worth.

Although you cannot touch self esteem it plays a great role in determining how you feel. Although it is invisible it is ever present whenever you look at yourself in the mirror. It is inaudible but always present whenever you speak about yourself. You can gradually transform the way you value yourself. You might begin with focusing on some of your great qualities and the greatest things you have done. This will help you to start learning how to love and accept yourself.

Self Esteem: How It Affects Your Life by Jane Sullivan Daniels. About the Author: For more information on combating low self esteem please visit by clicking low self esteem or self esteem

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