Do I Make A Difference?
This question, “Am I making a difference”, is one that could be asked at any time, any age, under any circumstances. You know, it’s ironic that the people who ask that question are the people who are usually the ones making the biggest difference in this world. Why does anyone ask a question of this nature? There are many reasons, but no matter “how low you can go” the underlying tone is always focused on making things better.
Do I Make a Difference?
Let’s start at the beginning, at that time when the doubt starts creeping into your thoughts. There might be all sorts of little things going wrong, plans cancelled, and energy lulls that all make you wonder if it’s worth it. Doesn’t the question also goes deeper into thoughts like “am I worth it?”
At some point it comes to the surface, with a heart to heart talk with someone you trust.
I had such a conversation recently when I was asked this simple but complex question. My response was calm and realistic, not just an off-the-shelf, “of course you make a difference”. I paused, and watched the energetics of her question and the series of images she was showing me on a spirit level. “I think your question is really about balance. It’s not about what you give, but on what comes back to you”. Alas, big givers do just that, sometimes giving so much that forget to take a deep breath, take a break, and take care of themselves.
Making A Difference in thought and action
We live in a reflective world. More than that, we live in a reactive and responsive world. Do you want more out of life? Then don’t stop by measuring your value only by what you give. If that’s all there is then we’re never going to have more than a one-for-one exchange, and where does that get us? What if you looked much further, not just at what you give, but the impact you have on others?
One of the may ways of knowing if you make a difference is by allowing a return on what you give.
Within the short time I spent with my friend I offered a silent safe space for her to bring this question out into the open. Did we linger on that topic? No, we talked about a million unrelated things. Still, that safe space remained. Within that safe space was room for the world to respond. It’s funny, within the hour she received several unexpected testimonials that answered her question. Each came to her in a different way,via email, ground mail, and text message.Perhaps my presence in her world that day was yet another example of the “world” responding to her question.
What about me, do I make a difference? I do ask that question of myself from time to time.
What have I learned? “Do I make a difference” isn’t just a like-for-like thing. It is building, creating, and getting more benefit out of the time and energy we invest in one another.
If we’re here to make more out of life, literally, then we should also be open to receive enough feedback and return from what we give, maybe getting enough that we can finally let go of trying to measure something that is immeasurable.
Do I Make A Difference? © 2013 Estee Taschereau. About the author: My greatest love is assisting others shift into the comfort of acceptance and appreciation. This relational, open-hearted energy carries into my many interests: photography, symbiotic gardening, long walks, and enjoying nature. Ready for a shift in your own world? Sessions available by appt.