Self Love Tips: Knowing Who You Are
How do we cultivate self love, the sense of comfort within ourselves and our actions? The art of “knowing who we are” is such an amazing yet obscure thing. We possess such great depth, with layer after layer of life experience defining how we feel and what we value. But let’s face it, most of what we see and expressis on the surface, satisfying what is needed at the moment to get the job done or satisfy a desire.
Most of what we deal with on a day to day basis could fall into the “routine bucket”, all those tasks we do in our job, taking care of our family, tending to our own needs. But carried within the routines is the core of our values, beliefs, and passion in life. The question is how much of that core is able to reach the surface, that place where you live?
Getting below the surface is the key to discovering our own “self-love”. Our longing to express ourselves as well as be heard often rises up from our own inner communication. In the arena of being seen, heard, and understood we are both the beginning and the destination. We can look at our own inner dialog as an inner gift, something we create that is handed over to another aspect of ourselves.
Treasure Everything About You
The key to “resurfacing” that inner core is to treasure that core beyond anything else. This doesn’t mean being egotistical, in fact when we hold ourselves in a place of honor we often become for humble. How do we improve our perspective of our own value and abilities? By our thoughts and actions, being gracious and giving your best to everything you do.
One simple step you can practice today is to give your undivided attention to one task. Is it the laundry? Great – check the pockets, look things over before they go into the wash, spot treat. Check the dryer lint trap. Fold your dry laundry while it’s still warm. Set out those freshly washed towels as if you had guests visiting, and lay out tomorrow’s wardrobe as if you were serving a rockstar. Notice how it feels to get that special attention, and how it feels when you give your best.
It’s not always easy to give 100 percent. We all have challenging and sometimes conflicting aspects of ourselves. We weigh and measure, compare ourselves to others, and carry statements that others have made that became “sticky thoughts” within our consciousness. We learn how to treat ourselves in part by the way we see others treat themselves as well as how they treated us. We’ve learned how to “get by”, and practiced living in a very marginal way.
Putting our practices on the line we can ask a very simple question: how does it feel to be treated in such a marginal way? How much of what you do for yourself teeters on the side of marginal?
Practice The Art of Self Love
Each and every one of us has the ability to live our lives with whatever combination of stories, ideas, and ideals we choose. If we want something to change in the world around us, in our relationships with others, the most powerful place to start is within your inner communication. It may take a little practice, but it is possible to rekindle the spark of excitement in living. The more we practice this art of self-appreciation the stronger that our inner core can surface in our everyday lives.
There we have it, 3 powerful Self Love Tips that you can apply in your life right now: Listen to your inner dialog, honor and respect that part of you that holds your passion and values, and practice infusing that part of you into the simple things you do by giving 100 percent. Have a most excellent day!
Self Love Tips: Knowing Who You Are © 2012 Estee Taschereau. About the author: My greatest love is assisting others shift into the comfort of acceptance and appreciation. This relational, open-hearted energy carries into my many interests: photography, symbiotic gardening, long walks, and enjoying nature. Ready for a shift in your own world? Sessions available by appt.